This was the title of an online masterclass hosted by Ashley Turner that I attended on Monday. I figured it was appropriate for Valentine’s Day week, plus really deepening and expanding this area of my life is something I’m focusing on recently.
Health Benefits of Sex
Sex can be a really important tool for improving and maintaining women’s health, balancing hormones, reducing stress and rejuvenating the body. According to women’s health expert Alisa Vitti, sex can boost women’s health in the following ways:
- Helps maintain healthy estrogen levels that nourish vaginal tissue and helps protect against osteoporosis and other disease.
- Boosts levels of DHEA, which improves brain function, reduces inflammation and bolsters the immune system.
- Increases fertility and overall sense of wellbeing by boosting the hypothalamus gland, helping to regulate hormone levels.
This is just the tip of the iceberg. For more about the benefits of a healthy sex life, plus tips and tools for rebalancing hormones and achieving optimal health, read Alisa Vitti’s book Woman Code.
Of course, in order to truly reap the rewards of a full sex life, one needs to be having truly nourishing sexual encounters – not always the easiest thing with to-do lists and busy schedules (and perhaps small children and interruptions). This is where Ashley’s masterclass comes in.
4 Tips for Supercharged Sex
The webinar was super informative, and I found the information to be really accessible and useful.
Recently I’ve been having an issue getting out of single-focus task-master masculine energy mode at the end of the day and into a receptive feminine space – something I noticed once I realized when I noticed that my partner and my sex life is so much juicier while on vacation. Of course, that’s fairly common and not masculine-feminine energy shift isn’t the only factor at play. I think these 4 tidbits Ashley shared will really help though!
Focus less on the mechanics of sex and more on the energy you’re creating. Set the tone and the space depending on your mood. This may be as simple as adjusting the lighting, or putting on a fan to help drown out an outside noise, and then focus on the connection with your partner.
Get really well acquainted with your own love language. One resource is the 5 Love Languages book. The idea being that we all receive love best in specific ways (ie. touch vs. praise). Beyond the book, what feels loving to you? Massage, different types of touch, acts of kindness? Focus on filling up your ‘love tank’ (if you will) in and outside of sexual interactions.
Don’t completely depend on your partner for joy and pleasure. This sort of relates to the above point. You want your tanks to be as full as possible, and you don’t want to be completely dependent on someone else to get there. This will also enrich your experience of joy and pleasure, diversifying it, and giving you something you can also invite your partner to experience with you as well.
Cultivate more of whatever you’re looking for in your sex life in other areas of your life. This is somewhat related to the law of attraction in my mind. Whatever you focus on grows. If you cultivate more tenderness or more playfulness in other areas of your life, you’ll attract more of it to you.
Meditation for Boosting Vitality
Ashley also shared a meditation to boost sexual vitality, and creative energy, both of which live in the second chakra. The idea is to focus on the second chakra space, about 4 finger widths below the belly button, and breathe energy into it. Focus on breathing energy into it and also expanding out of it. So with your inhale you’re actually envisioning expanding out from this point 360 degrees and pushing outward. And then exhaling fully.
Its hard to explain, but my sheer happenstance, I also listened to a free podcast this past week in which Ashley walked the listeners through the same exercise. You can listen the exercise on the Momma Goddess Podcast here (also available on the iTunes podcast app). The meditation/breathing exercise starts at about minute 27, but the entire interview is great.